I have been saving this topic for Halloween, and my friend’s birthday party. When you plan a party you get really stressed, and up tight. Well, at least I do all most every time there is a party. I usually have a brake down of some sort, or I feel like I can’t finish the planning. I am not even entirely sure why I feel this way, but I can’t help it. I had to make myself realize that no one cares if the party isn’t perfect. This was extremely hard for me to deal with. My friends almost had to keep me away from the party until it started.
For dealing with party planning from the website I used as my guide lines I had some interesting things to deal with. I tried to prioritize the best I could. I finally decided that we were going to have fun. So I focused on making space for us to dance or what not. I usually always plan ahead, but this time I decided to clean during the entire week, and not just wait until it’s too late. The hardest thing was trying to take care of myself. I tried to make sure I had breaks to sit down, and eat. I just wanted to keep on cleaning, but I made myself stop and remember I want to feel healthy during the party, and not sitting down sad in pain the entire time.
For my coping skills I had my friends to help me with a lot. They helped me cook the night before the party. We made a lot of cookies, and we bought everything we needed. Now, for the cleaning part I didn’t really listen to much. Sadly, I still cleaned every room almost, and I was trying to make the house clean. I just can’t help on that aspect. Yes I ended up feeling pain, but everyone who showed up to the party was amazed that it was so clean. By the way I live with my friend; so that was a shocker for them. I bought decorations, and my friend helped me put of a lot of them. Having helped helped lessen some of the stress I am not going to lie.
If you have parties try these things out, and also the things on the website. They did help with decrease a lot of the stress that I usually deal with when I plan a party. I hope that if you do try to try these things that they will help and work for you.
Sunni
What a cool, thematic blog. It's especially appropriate as we head into the holidays. Even though I do not suffer from fibromyalgia, I DO suffer from worrying about my parties. I love to plan them, and I love to focus on all the little details. But sometimes I have to step back and remember that I do it FOR FUN. Otherwise I can let stress get in my way.
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